Choosing Courage Over Comfort

It is so easy to stay comfortable. I know because I’ve been there, and I realize one of the most profound choices I make is whether to embrace courage or settle for comfort. This decision impacts my personal growth and the culture and success of teams. The distinction between being liked and respected often hinges on this choice.

Liked vs. Respected: A Leadership Dilemma

As leaders, we naturally want to be liked. It’s human to crave approval and avoid conflict. However, being liked often means avoiding tough decisions and necessary conversations. This path may lead to temporary harmony but undermines long-term respect and growth.

On the other hand, respect is earned through consistent integrity, making difficult choices, and standing by one’s values. I used to love it when my colleagues told me they could always rely on me to be honest and decisive. Respect requires candor even when the truth is uncomfortable. It builds a foundation of trust and authenticity, which is essential for effective leadership.

Feeling Courage (Literally)

I vividly recall a moment when I realized what courage actually felt like. I was about to have a challenging conversation with a leadership team member. This conversation, I knew, would be uncomfortable but necessary for our mutual growth and the organization’s success. I had to deliver negative feedback about their interactions with less seasoned colleagues. As I prepared myself, I felt a surge of energy in my stomach—a mix of anxiety and anticipation. I then understood that this physical sensation was a sign I was stepping into my courage zone.

This gut feeling became a barometer for my leadership actions. Whenever I felt that energy, I knew I was pushing my boundaries, being bold, vulnerable, and accepting my fears. I now use that sensation as a benchmark to measure if a decision I’m making is the right one at the time. I need to lean into my courage zone more if I’m called to make a bold move and don’t get that feeling.

Reaching Your Courage Zone

Many resources are available to help you reach your courage zone. I love Brene Brown’s book Dare to Lead, in which she states, “Clear is kind. Unclear is unkind.” She goes on to write that, “Feeding people half-truths or bullshit to make them feel better (which is almost always about making ourselves feel more comfortable) is unkind.” That simple statement is profound.

As a fellow leader, I challenge you to feel that energy in your stomach, recognize it as a sign of growth, and step boldly into the leadership arena. We can continue growing through this courage while inspiring our colleagues to reach new heights.